There are times for all of us when we feel exhausted, burnt out, our energy levels low and we feel negative about our own life. We may fantasise that others ‘have it better’ and that if only we had chosen a different path things would have been better. We have the choice to either allow… Read more »
Sex with no strings is advertised as though it’s freely available and has no consequences and that the idea is to meet and have uncomplicated sex with no strings. It almost sounds perfect for those with busy lives wanting a ‘quick fix’ as it were without the emotional involvement. However, in reality, I began to… Read more »
As we are all aware, pornography is available at the click of a button. It’s watched by over 40 million people just in the United States and seems to be accepted by the majority of people as normal. I am therefore wondering, why do I come across so many couples and individuals that feel that… Read more »
The dilemma of making a decision to leave a relationship that has ‘lost its magic’ or appears ‘to not be how it was’ or appears to be simply ‘hard work’ can sometimes create exhaustion from the constant battle in ones head with their thoughts. Dancing in the dark with confusing non-stop thoughts leads to anxiety,… Read more »
How often have I heard this saying from both male and female clients, colleagues and recently a member of my family, ‘I love him but I’m not in love with him’. I started to ponder on what this actually means or what it indeed means to the speaker. It did appear to be a contradiction,… Read more »
What are the benefits of telephone counselling and how does this work? Why simply don’t people just book a face to face counselling appointment? For many people in their very busy lives it simply isn’t always possible to find the correct counsellor on the suitable day and time that works into their schedule. If one… Read more »
I am wondering why so many of us are of the opinion that a relationship will continue to flourish and grow when the bare minimum attention is focused on it. Would we expect our work to be of a high standard if our input was minimalistic.? Of course not… When one meets a new partner… Read more »
Many people wonder why men and women stay in abusive relationships and don’t just walk away from these toxic situations. How can we expect them to understand as they have never been in these situations? For the thousands of victims that have found themselves in these situations, it is not easy to leave as we find ourselves trapped inside our ‘prisons’.
How did it come to this as we ask ourselves a million times over. How did our partner that was so charming, so witty, that we fell in love with, the person that we trusted and adored change to become so angry, demanding and controlling?
Many people tell me they feel frustrated and ‘stuck’ in their life. When the daily routines have become a chore and one identifies the ‘fun’ element and excitement in their life has temporarily disappeared for a while, one may start to feel low and unfulfilled.
How can one reconnect with their inner child, recapture their imaginations that we once had as a child where we had our imaginary friend, and find that feeling of total connection between mind, body and soul? As I observe ones struggles to seek pleasure, they often report that they desperately sought immediate gratification through making attempts to find ‘fun’ through affairs, and infidelity. They further report to me in therapy that that their ‘quick fix’ attempts to seek pleasure were swiftly followed by many negative emotions including guilt and isolation. Having not found that ‘fantasy love’ or the ‘peace’ one thought one may find, one perhaps was innocently looking in the wrong place.